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Post by mick on Aug 8, 2008 2:22:23 GMT 1
Okay, truthfully, I may have given them advice, but it wasn't because I was the oldest. It was, honestly, because the sister I'm thinking about was going overboard on a certian situation and driving all of us crazy! My mom had gotten fed up with her, and then she (my sister) called me one night (because my mom wouldn't listen anymore) and started in on the same thing with me, and I lost it (I was going through something at the time and was trying to get her to put her situation in perspective). Yes, I know the whole thing about not comparing situations, but honestly, she was driving the whole family crazy! I never gave advice out of being older, or saying something like "I'm the oldest and I know," I always gave it the same way I would give it to my friends. Now, maybe it's because my sisters and I are close in age, so I never really felt "older" nor did I ever feel like a parent to them.
As kids, I'm sure this was different (like most siblings--you know, the whole "I go first in the game because I'm the oldest") but I always thought of my sisters as more equals. I will admit to being jealous of them--I had stricter rules, they both had boyfriends in high school when I barely dated, etc.
Sorry for the rambling...
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Post by yor on Aug 8, 2008 2:23:58 GMT 1
lol I LOVE IT!
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Post by mick on Aug 8, 2008 4:20:07 GMT 1
I'm glad someone enjoys my rambling!
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Post by Silwyna on Aug 8, 2008 7:17:51 GMT 1
After you answer, I am going to find your younger siblings and show them your statements!!! Good thing my sister doesn't speak english then LOL I think there's a difference between telling and suggesting. If my sister has an important decision to make, i.e., find a job or continue going to school, buy a house now or wait until later, I'm not going to not say anything, that wouldn't be very helpful. I listen and I give her my opinion. But I NEVER would want her to go with my opinion simply because it was mine. You want the best for your siblings. And I KNOW that what is best for me isn't always best for her, so I would never tell her do it that way because I did it that way and therefore it is the best and only way. The way I see it, the "job" of an older sibling is simply to make sure the younger one is okay. Always be there for him/her, make sure she's happy and if she's not, be there for her/him to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on. Does that make sense? Not all older siblings are the same, just as not all parents are the same I don't think Sam's rebellion was directly against John or Dean... more the life. I don't see him as asking them to change... he wanted them to let HIM be different. He tells Dean this much in season one... Dean admits he doesn't want Sam to go... He has to learn to accept that Sam will... And to his credit, he does! (Good boy!)Very well said I'm still careful on judging John... he's portrayed as bad so often, but truth be told, Lots of parents have problems letting go and letting their children be who they are...I think the problem with John is that he loved his sons and he wanted them to be safe more than anything (and with what happened that's only understandable). He just made the mistake to put their "safety" above their wishes, what they wanted in life, and even though that worked with Dean, Sam was just different. And John never saw that or better, he saw it too late.
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Post by yor on Aug 8, 2008 13:33:43 GMT 1
but Sillllkkkkeeee... Ich spreche doch Deutsch! Ich kann sie DOCH fragen!!!!! Your suggestion... I'm sure that's how my sister sees it too.
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Post by Silwyna on Aug 8, 2008 13:44:34 GMT 1
We should get the four of us together and discuss this out LOL
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Post by yor on Aug 8, 2008 13:59:09 GMT 1
Na, I've beaten my sister down. She's stopped now!
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Post by Silwyna on Aug 8, 2008 14:18:15 GMT 1
See, my sister never had to do this. She's fine with my older sister behaviour
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Post by mick on Aug 8, 2008 16:06:54 GMT 1
I think the problem with John is that he loved his sons and he wanted them to be safe more than anything (and with what happened that's only understandable).
I think another problem is that we really haven't gotten to see alot of John. Most of what is stated about him is based on what the boys have said and the few episodes he's been in, which, I think, is another reason they need to get JDM back! I woul dlove to see more of the relationship between father and sons.
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Post by Silwyna on Aug 8, 2008 16:10:14 GMT 1
Amen to that!
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